Living under the same roof while maritally separated sucks. To add insult to injury, we broke up right before the holidays. It’s painful to be stuck in a situation when you can’t physically move on. We got along okay, but I avoided interaction with him the best I could. To get away from the tension,... Continue Reading →
Separation
I had been a completely independent woman prior to meeting Bear, and now I somewhat depended on a man for the first time in my life - and it sucked. I wanted to leave as soon as I found out he was lying to me and being sneaky behind my back with this Stacy chick.... Continue Reading →
Crossing Boundaries & Betrayal
Moving back to Florida meant starting over with employment for both Bear and I. Of course, the seemingly biggest issue crept up again - money - which can bring out some real nastiness in people. A few weeks after moving into the house we rented, Bear found a job with a company he wanted but... Continue Reading →
Ending in Hawaii
Shortly after I’d written this post in 2012: Moving to Hawaii - a Dream Come True, Bear and I had to decide to either move back to Florida or be homeless in Hawaii. As much as we wanted it to work out and be an actual dream come true, the trip to Hawaii was miserable... Continue Reading →
No Good Memories is Emotionally Exhausting
This past few weeks of writing has rendered me emotionally exhausted. Writing forces me look closely at situations, relationships, etc., which helps to clarify things. But it also brings up both repressed and suppressed feelings, which has initiated this rollercoaster. Writing about my marriage brought up feelings I didn’t know I’d suppressed, things I had... Continue Reading →
Falling Out of Love
As I stated in yesterday’s post, the events I’ve been discussing happened over an 8-year period. I don’t want to make it seem like Bear was a bad guy, because he wasn’t. I’m only pointing out the major problems that ultimately ended our marriage, and I want to learn from my mistakes and not repeat... Continue Reading →
Married to an Alcoholic
Some of the things I've been writing happened throughout my marriage over an 8-year span. While I was going through some old paperwork, I found a letter I’d written to Bear two years into our marriage. Everything I said in the letter were exactly the same problems we had over and over that ultimately ended... Continue Reading →
Slowly & Subtly Entering Supression
I ended the last post up to the point in which I’d met my (ex) husband. (For writing purposes, I will call him Bear.) After not seeing Bear around for a couple of months after initially meeting him, we ran into each other at a charity event, which turned into a drinking event. He was... Continue Reading →
Stopping Drinking for the First Time
After I was kicked when I was down, I stopped drinking altogether for a while. (I was also under a probationary period in which I wasn’t allowed - a huge catalyst.) A few months into 2006, pretty much everything was over and done with the DUI issue. Even though I was found not guilty, I... Continue Reading →
Being Kicked While Down
In my last post, I had mentioned a variety things that I was dealing with during the worst time of my life. I was dealing with a multitude of complete mindfucks. One of the things I didn’t elaborate on was this statement: “During that time, someone I cared a lot about did some really awful... Continue Reading →