The first turn-off in my marriage was the day he cried. No, not just cried. Bawled.
No one had died, and nothing bad had happened. Big Baby sat in the beige recliner in front of the tv in the living room of our brand new home and bawled his head off all because he couldn’t have his way. Not joking.
One of Big Baby’s friends was getting married, and he’d already decided he didn’t want to attend the wedding, didn’t want to take the 4-state trip up the coast, and since we’d just bought a house, funds were short. Big Baby changed his mind a few days before the couple’s big day when he found out some of his other friends were making the trip, and it would be one big party. What’s what set it off. The only thing keeping him back was the lack of funds – something HE chose to spend on things I didn’t find necessary.
Now I’m a pretty compassionate person, and normally I would console someone during times of distress. But I just couldn’t bring myself to console someone over something like this. Our marriage was new, and we’d only been together for just over a year at that point, so I wasn’t even sure how to handle this situation.
When asked what was the matter, Big Baby said he missed his friends. Okay… nevermind he had a new wife here he wasn’t even considering to bring with… but okay. I should have known then that this wouldn’t be the last time Big Baby would cry about much of nothing or throw temper tantrums like a 3-year-old, punching holes in walls and essentially turning me off from our sex life. No grown ass woman wants to have sex with a man-child.
More to come…
Oh I so identify – maybe not over the trivial nature of the tears etc but at the fact that they were there at all – I have compassion to spare for people who are prepared to take responsibility for their lives, their emotions and their behaviour – but if none of those boxes are ticked, bawling your eyes out about how miserable you are and nothing will ever change is not the way to endear yourself to others, particularly your long-suffering wifey
LikeLiked by 1 person
LOL, well now I wonder if he still pulls that shit in front of his new wife-to-be.